Autumn Mason Jars- Grianstad Project

Leaves! They are the greatest natural decorative element that you can work with. I use the mason jar idea, often. It’s easy, turns out beautiful and not only gives us something to enjoy doing,but also to enjoy looking at.

For My Holidays and A gentle shift… each year we combine many celebrations like, lughnasadh, Mabon,Samhain, Halloween and All Souls Day… to give thanks for the blessings over the year which for me as an Angelic, starts in May. It’s fun a reason to party! But we make the decorations. It’s no real nature celebration using fake artificial material! By the 31st of October you should have some nice decor that you could even use until the end of November

Materials:

Leaves, using the lightest shade of the colors that you can. Also don’t collect dry leaves. Be sure to obtain colorful ones that are still alive.)

Mason jars.

Twine

Mod Podge adhesive spray

Votive candles or battery operated LED inserts

Directions:

Spray the leaves with the adhesive spray and arrange them on the sides of the jar inside. Smooth them out and be sure to leave little peek-a-boo openings for light play from the candle or LED. Tie some twine around your jar’s top, and voila! You can get as creative as you want.

Enjoy! Make your home or room look festive for the end of the month’s festivities.

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Life Talk- Toxic People

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Spiritually Awkward Group- Facebook

For the exercise in the challenge that we are doing on Facebook, we have to work on eliminating toxic people from our life. I know that a lot of people find this to be a difficult task, because many have emotional attachments to most of the people that they have in their life.

I don’t have a great deal of toxic people around me but I do have a few. And I really had to look into who I was meant to keep and help, versus the people that I just really love the lot. So I grew up with a person that I really loved with all of my heart. They were like a sister to me and we had really gone through a lot of things in childhood together. Sometimes one of the hardest parts of letting someone go, are the memories that you shared that have brought you together in the first place. However, while growing up people part ways for a little while to kind of do their own thing. During those times people change. Sometimes they change so much they are not recognizable anymore. This individual, there were a lot of things that really had hurt my feelings. I want to have done a lot for them, even during times of their financial crisis, having loan the money. I never really wanted any of it back. But if I had needed a favor here or there, even something small, I would have been nice if the person would have openly offered or not even turned me down when I asked. I had tried to be there for the person’s children too. But whenever I had done something nice like having taken them shopping, I was called and chastised for it. Over time, her children would want to spend the weekend over, and if it wasn’t during a time that she needed a sitter, she would say no. If she needed a sitter she would call to ask if they could come. Her kids when they did come, didn’t want to leave. They didn’t get a lot of attention at home, there was drinking there, arguing, and their parents used extra money for drinking rather than taking them out somewhere. When they would go home after a weekend at my house, they would complain to their mom how they hated being at home, and how my kids were treated better. I got blamed and the visits slowed down. My own daughter even got blamed over the one girl being suicidal, which my daughter had tried to help Talk her out of it. Blame was placed everywhere but on themselves.

The person made me feel not good enough. They didn’t appreciate me and they would put up an insulting post about me, that was so obviously a rant putting me down for being more of a hippie type parent. I never said anything about their parenting? It was ridiculous, and then to act like I was stupid, when I confronted them for the posts, almost as if I would not of known they were about me? I even tried to stay friends with him, inviting and then places but they always turned me down. But yet, I was still getting up for them to come to, when they needed something. After a while they stop asking for things directly and instead just kind of slipped it in there, what they were struggling with and how they had to seek out help. I’m thinking: “I know you’re mentioning this because you want my help”. LOL

I had had enough after lengthy period of time of coping with that treatment. Just to give everyone some insight as to how to do them in the toxic people from your life, that you still love, the best thing to do is to just gradually start distancing yourself from them. This means, not take as many phone calls anymore, eventually not returning the text messages. But first you will want to just respond back but shortly. And then overtime, start tapering off with your communications. Me and the individual have not spoken since August and to be honest with you, I feel much better knowing that I have people around me that really do love me, rather than having people around me that just love me for what I could do for them, and then criticize me later their insecurities. Wish them well in life but I did exactly what I just advise all of you to do, I tapered off my communication with them starting with short messages then short messages spread out, then no messages at all. Of course they try to reach out to find out why, but obviously I’ve talk to this person a couple of times about how I felt in the past, and nothing had ever change so there’s no use and having the same conversation again right? You don’t have to keep explaining yourself to allow the person to keep validating their rude behavior.

Life Talk- The lazy complainers

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Join us in our spiritually awkward Facebook group. Just look it up! You are more than welcome to join and take part in the challenge. Lots of life coaching daily, and a lot of teamwork as well as participation.

Scenario 1 of negative toxic people- The Lazy Complainers

I think it was really wonderful that our friend mentioned something like this in the group for our challenge of getting ourselves in a better place in regards to people that have hurt us, those were toxic, or even those who make life a little bit more difficult than it needs to be. Challenge that we’re all doing is combination of fitness, spiritual health, as well as emotional and mental life coaching. We want to make our lives positive and happy. Challenge that we’re all doing is combination of fitness, spiritual health, as well as emotional and mental life coaching. We want to make our lives positive and happy. Since our weekly exercise surrounds toxic or negative people, so our member had mentioned something wonderful in the group that corresponded with the subject. I thought to elaborate because it was definitely one of the things on my list. Maybe it will help her? Or others…

I do a lot of things around the house that I know that other people should have done or at least had thought to do. I can’t do everything, but somehow I end up always doing everything. It does get a little hurtful sometimes because you’re thinking “why does everybody else sit around and do nothing? Or have it easy?”

But in the long run least you know that you’re the better person in that respect because you took care of things. We can’t change what other people do or don’t do, but keeping in mind that you always do what’s best, is what can keep you going. That’s what I tell myself. Sometimes even just mentioning it to somebody that they didn’t do something or that they left it unfinished, or that they put a ton of stuff on top of you, turns into an argument. Where in example my daughter Amber does a lot for me. I have a whole entire house downstairs, while my parents have a house of their own upstairs. I am a perfectionist, so every day I clean and I have to do it very sanitarily. Then I have to run the business, advertise and write the blog, run errands, and now I’m running back-and-forth to hospital for the baby. Amber is usually helping me with all of those tasks and by the end of the day we are not really tired but we want to sit back and talk and relax without responsibility. But my mother will complain as soon as we get upstairs, that somebody didn’t take out the trash, or something insignificant that.

Now, my mom does not have a job, never had one.. and it is totally OK if she chose to be a housewife. She does straighten up The house lately in the morning, and then she does help to care for my father who has some health issues by fixing his meals three times a day and giving him his meds. But other than that she is generally on the couch watching television. So if you have an easy day doing absolutely nothing, sitting on the couch watching movies and ordering out, why bother pestering the girls in the house who have 1000 things to do? Now that is how any normal person would think right?

Well, we have to look at things in a different manner. We have to look at that person’s point of you besides just our own. First of all, are they a strong person like you, or are they the type of person that can only do minimal in life because of their motivation level? Are they the type of person who has a sense of entitlement? If so, then you’re definitely never going to win any argument at all. Is this a person that can only handle so much stress well you could probably handle a lot more on top of responsibility? Because some people can only do so much, while others can do much more. That’s only in their own eyes though. Most people could do almost anything, if they just believe in themselves. But maybe, they just don’t have that mentality.

So the point is, while it could be a bit aggravating at times when you have someone ragging on you who does less, or everything is on top of you, all that you have to do is just see where that person is motivational standpoint is in life, and just go about how you do things knowing, that maybe they are just not at the level that you’re on. You cannot let it bother you because then it brings you down to their level. Most people with the lack of motivation have a lack of motivation because, they suffer from depression or other mental ailments. They could even just feel fatigued because of medications that they take or that they have issues coping with life. Usually all of those things there, one or the other or all of them, are under the surface of the person’s behavior. So really knowing that, you can focus on the fact that you are in a better place and can handle much more and the negativity of the situation will fade, just for a little while. More than likely it will come back here and there, but you just have to redirect your thoughts in this direction.