“Gold is the color of friendship, divinity, joy, clarity, and strength. Family should be led entirely on these things”.
If you are trying to have a good family, then applying the virtues is also a good way of ensuring a happy family life. Divinity should always be the foundation of your family life because is from the divine that your values and morals are rooted. Some of them include having mental clarity, strength, perseverance, endurance, love, charity, humility, generosity, patience and understanding.
Courage with divinity as your inspiration, should be your motivator at all times to walk your pathway as a family in those virtues. That is because it takes courage to begin with, to always exhibit them.how many of you have endured time and time again that one family member that incessantly gets on your nerves? Come on, every family has one. Think about the typical American family. I’ll provide for you an example of a family that I once knew.
It doesn’t matter if it’s your own family, friends family, or your in-laws. It takes a great deal of strength to have to persevere through the ups and downs that each individual relative will bring. I have taught my students time and time again that you can’t make people be, as you want them to be. You can only hope but you can’t expect. Having expectations means that you have conditions.but as you know love it’s truth for must be unconditional. However, it is very hard to cope with relatives that sometimes don’t make it as easy as they could.
There are all different types of characters in a family. Many people in the family will have disagreements and bump heads. Right now at the moment in the world, families are very estranged during these days due to technology. Like I’ve taught my students many times before, being alone and isolated while looking at social media all of the time tends to draw a person into a self-absorbed bubble. Many times a relative may be calling them from another room and they’ll snap at them in response, because they don’t want to be bothered. They’re alone in their own thoughts and drifting into them so much so, that they’d rather stay there than be bothered with reality or every day life. They don’t want to be bothered by even their own loved ones.
There are a lot of times that there is a lack of patience even with parents in their parenting. I have toddlers myself, and so I find myself teaching other parents that it’s important to have perseverance and patience. Children are learning and their attention spans are very short. You’ll tell the child know about something one minute and they listen as you explain “why” and then they will stop, only just to go right back to doing it a few minutes later because they forgot what you said before. They have to have constant redirection. For change and growth, your thoughts need that same redirection. And that’s because just like children who need to be redirected and patterned, for a new way of thinking you have to have the same method. But alas, while I patiently guide my children over and over again even in the same situation hundreds of times a week, other parents wouldn’t be able to handle that. They would have yelled at them or disciplined them the first time, rather than gently explaining why they shouldn’t touch some thing or get into something. Authority only creates fear though. Love and wisdom and creates compassion and gentle kindness.
I think relationships are also very difficult. Men and women often have very different minds. Women think with their hearts whereas men think logically. Women are more intuitive rather than men who are realistic and do things according to what’s proven and is known to work. There are a lot of times when women really want affectionate moments of love and compassion, but their significant other doesn’t know that they need to provide it. There are many times they don’t even know when is a right time to provide it. Women are very complicated creatures that’s for sure . And that’s because of their emotions which create a lot of insecurities. It’s the same even in same-sex relationships as well. There are a lot of times that one person is more passive whereas the other is more aggressive. Unbalanced, these two different personality types are going to get into a lot of arguments. Still relationships are complicated as a topic just by itself. Siblings often have a lot of rivalry or competition too. There are a lot of reasons as to why siblings argue and fight.
Whether it’s your own family that you live with or your in-laws… There will always be someone who is to directly spoken. There will always be that one person that’s too much in your business. There will always be that one person that has the ability to help but doesn’t want to. Then there will always be that one person that wants to help even though they can’t. There will be relatives that sparked rumors and deny them. There will be relatives that start rumors and admit to them while putting you down in your face. There are many who don’t want to put up with each others issues and so they throw their hands in the air easily. Then there are relatives that just stay away all together, so that they don’t have to walk away at all. In any case whether you have wonderful relatives or difficult ones, it’s still remains the same that there will always be hard times and good ones in a family. There will be great moments of joy end of suffering. But the foundation of family life should always be anchored into the teachings of heaven. If you apply the virtues you will get along with your relatives, and you’ll be guaranteed a much better life and relationship with them. This means being forgiving and patient with them when they’re going through difficult times. This also means to be patient and listen when they speak as they may not always come off great way the first time. It also means to help when you can and always put in 100%.
Someone always told me that I was too loving and too forgiving. Well that’s the idea of applying heavens teachings! As an angelic I wear my heart easily on my sleeve and I always give people repetitive chances. That’s because I know that in time with love, and a good person standing by them, anybody has ability to change. The change takes time.
I’ve also been told that I allow a lot of people to walk all over me.I’ve been told that instead of just going a mile with my family members, I often go 10 miles. But isn’t that what you’re supposed to do for your family? This is how everyone should be toward one another family or not. Jesus or as I call him Yeshua, was a great teacher. He taught that if someone asks you to go a mile, then you should go two. If they ask for your coat, they take it off, give it to them plus the undergarment to. You can’t just tell somebody to keep warm and not offer them a coat or to tell them to keep dry in the rain and not give them an umbrella? What I’m saying is that you have to go 100% in when it comes to family.
Today’s family is full of relatives who put everything on one another. They feel that this is one person‘s job or that it belongs to another. When asked to do anything they often get an attitude and easily irritated. And again that’s because of social media and how easily everyone is slipping into earthly patterns and habits in life. Remembering to be virtuous would create the attitude of telling the person asking for help that they’re happy to do so and that they’re there to accommodate them with whatever else that they need. That’s being loving. Not to argue the point or to deny that it’s their job at all, even if it’s not. Yes, offering to do it anyway shows family support. But yet it’s hard for family members even do simple tasks for each other anymore. If it cuts into their time or energy or even their financial pocket, family doesn’t really want to stand by their relatives anymore. But a loving family would. They would give their last five dollars to help their relative, and they would rush out to assist them when bringing in groceries or carrying of laundry, even if it had nothing to do with them at all. Or if they are vacuuming their own bedroom, to run the vacuum through the whole house for everybody. These are a little things that mean the world to the people that you live with believe it or not. Even if someone else has trash duty and you see it sitting there, just pick it up and throw it out. It doesn’t really matter whose job it is great if you see it and you know the persons not there or they’re busy, help them out. Families don’t want to work together though. And that’s why it takes a great deal of courage and strength to restructure your family based upon the golden rules. The most infamous golden rule is that of, treat others as you would wish to be treated. That means always keeping in mind that whatever you’re going to say, that you should ask yourself if it is something that you would feel hurt by? Some thing that you’re about to do, ask yourself if it is something that would agitate you? The golden rule really helps in keeping stability in families. It takes a lot of courage to do so. Of course you’re going to have a little bit of a rift while trying to gain cooperation. But once everything comes together in terms of everybody playing an active role in the family, you’re going to see such a major turn around.
Family will act loving, and help each other out when needed. To be forgiving of their shortcomings (even if horrible at times), and to not speak badly about one another behind each others back will create peace. Listening to your relative when they have something to say and to hold off on arguing also helps and shows concern and consideration. You should make it a point to make their feelings and thoughts valid but also explain a little bit more deeply on where you’re coming from at the same time. All of these things would make life easier in the path of a family life.
Pay attention to the joys over negative things that happen in your family. Focusing too much on the hardships will create depression and everybody in the family will feel it. If even one person in your family feels depressed, their mood and character will change because of it. Everybody will feel it…believe it or not. Try to stay upbeat and talk things out instead. Focus on the positive things in your blessings. If there are hardships in the family, sit down and talk about it as a family. If you’re having difficulties with each other, sit down and talk about them too. Allow each person to speak without cutting in, or getting offended. Try to see from their perspective and stand point. Feel what the other person is saying. If they say something that seems offensive, ask what they mean. More than likely, how they’re saying it isn’t how they mean to come off. A lot of people when expressing themselves don’t always know how to word it right the first time. Give them a chance to explain. Pray together pray together as a family too. When two or more pray for the spirit of God, it’s more present. I’m sure many of you have heard that saying too. It is true. All of you together being happy and upbeat, working together with compassion and love, and thinking virtuously with God on your mind, can create a positive cloud of consciousness in your environment together.
Another thing is that you have to show your family that you love say that you care about them and leave them all alone to work through things when they get into a pickle. You can’t tell them that you care about them and not help them when they’re asking is because we thing is inconveniencing you. If you love your family, and then they come first. I mean if you head situation I feel bad about not being able to help at all. But if you know you could do it. Your family will always remember the kind things that you do for them. Don’t think that it’s not your job to do this or it’s not your business. Always remember that everything that all of you do in a family, affects one another too. Even if you can’t see it clearly.
Believe me, everything that each family member does, comes back into the household eventually. Help one another without pride.
Help them out from your heart and even when you don’t feel like it. help them even if they have been jerks to you in the past, having denied you help when you’ve asked. It doesn’t matter what anyone does or doesn’t do for you. Humility is about being compassionate, and generous without anything in mind to expect later from it. You may not get their help the same way from them in return. But heavenly father sees your actions from his post beyond this world. He will always reward you in the way that you need most in your life. Only… your life may be too preoccupied or busy or loud for you to see those blessings in your life. Look for his grace in every day life around you. God does help you in mysterious ways, and even in the direct ways that you especially ask for. Being virtuous and loving, considerate, compassionate, and helpful, that is the way to a happy family.
I wish you the best of luck in trying to restructure your family based on the virtues. It isn’t easy and you may not find a lot of cooperation from everybody to begin with, but it’s worth a try. You also have to keep in mind that perseverance is going to be one of the biggest Virtues that you’ll need for this. And that’s because even for those that do give it a try, you may find that they fall backwards over and over again. It’s all about just showing them a better way with lots of love, so that the love is enough motivation by itself to keep them wanting to continue to help you build.
“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
I was thinking deeply lately and alongside of my posts on my social media for my mystical work psychic readings and spiritual teachings, I’ve decided that I’m going start using the pages as a diary of sorts too.
So here it goes.
In this line of work it is very difficult to maintain level of positivity merely because I absorb the sadness of others. I am not just an ordinary teacher. As an angelic Oracle I walk the path with them. I go through what they go through with them, so that I can understand them even more when I help them. That’s some thing a person cannot fake. They feel the realness of it because when they come back to me they can feel that I just know and understand. Other teachers just teach merely thinking that their students have to take in what they’re giving, but I don’t do that. I give them what I have according to who they are uniquely and individually, but pertaining much to the truth. This helps them understand the light according to their own Thor. There would be no other way for me to ever get the message through them to show them how they each would understand they have them selves. But to do that as an Oracle and an angel, I have to take in their sufferings and their good times too. It’s not really all that easy at times.
I love what I do and I wouldn’t change any of that for the world and I don’t want anyone ever apologizing to me for any of it. I love every single person with all of my heart and I will walk to the end of the earth with all of you. But I know people have other doubts in there and different feelings toward me but even for those that have stepped away in the past I still even love all of you. I love what I do, and I wouldn’t change any of that for the world and I don’t want anyone ever apologizing to me for any of it. I love every single person with all of my heart and I will walk to the end of the earth with all of you. But I know people have had their doubts here and there and different feelings toward me, but even for those that have stepped away in the past I still even love all of you.
Still, life itself also brings darker shades toward my own personal life as well. Through the many lessons that each of my family members face for themselves individually, I treat it all just r hurt nurture it through time. While it grows the bees will sting, the bugs will bite… but at the end you’ll have a beautiful crop. The cultivation of such, takes great love. Therefore, I know that if it were to take many years, even in how some struggle and repeat mistakes, or for those who take it out on me… the kind and loving things that I say and teach will make all of the difference in the world for them permanently later on. Yes, enforcing change immediately is only but temporary.
Yet, it doesn’t change that yes I do go through it with them.When they’re down, I feel it. When they feel unloved or insignificant, then I feel that with them as well.
There are a lot of times that through this line of work I come across a rough situation or two but more so in my own personal face-to-face life, there are people that just don’t understand the way that I do things. I get questioned in regards to why I accept the people that I do in my life, or why I am so forgiving of their shortcomings when they hurt me. I know that I’ll never be as great as Yeshua but the one thing that I can definitely say is that I relate. He is a wonderful teacher. And the answer to a lot of those questions get back to you excepting people that were in need of love because he knew how powerful love is and that those are the people most help. He said: “It’s the sick people who need doctors”. And he’s right. If I myself this perfectly, then why would I want to only be around other people who act perfectly? I’m not here for that. It’s hurts that they don’t understand that I AM love.
I’m here to be a good example to others in how they can be better people. Sometimes it takes a lot out of me to do so, because there are moments in my own life where I feel down or I want to cry. It’s like being wise, I know that people are going to make their own mistakes and do what they choose, regardless of what I teach them. But when they fail themselves, I feel like I failed them and I wonder why it was hard for them to apply what I taught them or the heavenly perspective.
Then, there are these moments when a lot of all of those emotions are channeled thru the intimate ties that I’ve made with the beautiful people that I have come to work with, and I need just a little bit of something to bring me back up. It said those moments when I needed the most that things like this come in the mail. Beautiful letters from people I’ve actually helped because they actually get it. They understood a lot of things that others couldn’t create of course there are other students that are like them, ascending and awake, but it’s just knowing sometimes directly from them how much I’ve made that impact in their life and continue to… That really continues to provide me the hope that I need to continue doing so.
Today I received three cards all at once. I already knew that I was going to be getting them because I had a few visions last week of the same articles, a cheetah, and a camera. I went out and bought this background paper that I was going to use for some other things related to projects that I’m working on. But there was one piece of that paper that I saw that I really had no other use for them to make into a pretty wall hanging. I knew that I was going to receive some really cute stuff that I could add to it for the picture. What was inside the guards was truly moving and really made me cry a lot out of happiness.You see, when a person can write to me using my own quote then elaborate on it through what they’ve learned within themselves in their own life, that’s when you know that you’ve done a good job. And in the cards that I received I can see that these three students really learned a lot and I can be more proud. They really made me feel so good about myself too, because I know that I’ve provided hope and growth to them in the kind words that they’ve added to the expression of what they’ve learned in their journeys.
I just wanted to use his time to say that all of the positivity really helps. I’m so happy that many of you out there have found yourselves and even though you’re still seeking a little bit here and there, I am always proud of you through the ups and downs all of the way and that I’m here beside you every step.
After moving into this house, we realize that there were a lot of things wrong with it. My father didn’t like it because it was far to open in the backyard. He was a military guy and so having a yard exposed to a main road with a shady store behind it, and no fence for protection really bothered him. He really didn’t like the layout of the house either. He was a particular guy.I always understood my father and the things that he said because I always try to visualize and relate, going into another person when they’re speaking rather than just only listening. When he was dying he had me by him a Ryobi drill set. I thought it was a great gift but I wondered in my mind how he was going to use it since he couldn’t do much of anything anymore. And so I still bought it for him and in the back of my mind I knew he was going to give it to me. Finally, went Christmas came I handed him the huge box with the drill set in it. Right after opening it, he slid it right back to me. He told me: “Merry Christmas, you’ll be needing this”. It’s still bring steers my eyes when I think about it. He was right. I am both man and woman of the house. I have to always fix everything and this drill set really came in handy.
It’s true we had a lot of problems with the heater, back puff coming in through the ventilation system, and so many other issues overtime that I couldn’t fix. It was becoming costly and on top of many other things that I had gone through from the time that my father passed up until now, I realize just how much parents really do for their children. But it was my turn now, and I was excited to be the head of the household and provider. But admittedly, it was more to bite off than I could chew. Recently, our central air conditioning unit broke down. It was not so bad the first time that happened because it was not as hot, but it was still pretty humid. My mother and I pitched in together to pay for someone to come out and fix it. However, they weren’t honest and ended up ripping us off because they made us pay $300 for a part that isn’t even available for that particular unit anymore because of how old it is, plus $70 for the consultation and another $150 for the supposed labor of fixing it. It’s a shame what people will do to other people to earn a buck. And so while it was rigged to work for a little while longer in order to make it look as if it were fix for the time being, the air conditioning unit finally died on us. It’s called a single stage carrier unit and they were made from the 1960s into the 1970s. Unfortunately they don’t sell refrigerant or parts for it as much anymore these days. That’s just my luck LOL.
Looking into trying to replace it with even a better use one that actually still works, it’s too risky. The heating and air-conditioning technician said that it would be a waste of money to buy the same one because it would more than likely break down being so old anyhow. I suppose he’s right. Why would I want to spend $500 buying the same unit, only for the old thing to break down soon anyway? Asking him how much it would cost to get a new one, he told me and my mother that it would be anywhere from $7000, to $10,000. We have enough bills already, but we were desperate to put the air back on for the sake of my mothers health with her being elderly, and for the little ones.The heating and air-conditioning technician said that it would be a waste of money to buy the same one because it would more than likely break down being so old anyhow. I suppose he’s right. Why would I want to spend $500 buying the same unit, only for the old thing to break down soon anyway? Asking him how much it would cost to get a new one, he told me and my mother that it would be anywhere from $7000, to $10,000. We have enough bills already, but we were desperate to put the air back on for the sake of my mothers health with her being elderly, and for the little ones. It’s known that the very young and elderly as well, both have more of a chance dying from heat stroke than anyone else. Therefore, my mother and I tried to go for financing as he offered it. He went for the financing options for us, from the cheapest unit at $7870, to the second cheapest which was $10,341. If we didn’t get approved for those two options and it was obvious we would not get approved for any of the more costly ones. It’s known that the very young and elderly as well, both have more of a chance dying from heat stroke than anyone else. Therefore, my mother and I tried to go for financing as he offered it. He went for the financing options for us, from the cheapest unit at $7870, to the second cheapest which was $10,341. If we didn’t get approved for those two options and it was obvious we would not get approved for any of the more costly ones. And so after trying, we just gave up. I went out and bought my mom two fans that she could stick in front of her bed so that she could at least just lay in her bed and relax with the fans blowing on her all day. As for us, I did get a bigger fan for me and the rest of the family but it’s just blowing around hot air.
Looking at the situation, many people would be pretty angry at what they had to experience and go through. my eldest children were getting a bit agitated that’s for sure. I knew of a lot of people in the past that had lost their air conditioner in extreme heat, who had also gotten extremely irritable. But for me, I saw it as an opportunity for a great lesson to be acknowledged. It was a sign to teach my son appreciation and not to take the luxuries of today’s technology for granted. So I figured I would bring back some of the childhood summer fun activities that I used to do to keep cool and so I brought out some of the things necessary for the little ones to do. It wasn’t too bad. I figured I would put up a post about how people don’t have to look at bad situation always as if they are negative. There are positives so many things even if they involve some kind of suffering. And believe me we were suffering through the heat but I found more enjoyment in doing things with my babies then I would have been just staying indoors keeping cool. And trying to provoke that kind of inspiration, the post had inspired compassion as well. One of my students went and organized a little fundraiser for me to get some help.
I wanted to say first of all that I am extremely full of heartfelt gratitude that my friend Preston was compassionate and concerned enough that he started a go fund me to put in a new central air conditioning unit. We’ve been struggling over here with excruciating heat for a couple of weeks and the other day I was getting so faint I thought I was going to pass out. The little ones were crying and really agitated by the heat but we tried to do the best that we could by finding other means of staying cool. I wasn’t angry or upset and I certainly felt that all things happen for a reason. I have always appreciated that we had central air in this home. We moved here at the end of 2016.
Growing up I lived in a house that was over 200 years old and we never had any air conditioner. Not even the window kind. We were extremely hot all of the time and the smell of the old house is it in this heat it up really added to the discomfort. Even though this experience presently has been a painful experience to go through, we have had a lot of fun doing other things like water balloon fights, getting wet with the sprinkler or hose, getting the kids to swim in a kiddie pool, and also eating tons of freeze pops LOL
The sun is a very difficult thing for me to bear with because of my psychic energy. I can’t even go outside at a certain time, let alone be in direct heat like that and so it was really hard on me for my work and for other visions that the heavens were trying to channel through. Seeing that someone tried to fundraise for me without me even having to ask, brought tears to my eyes because I don’t really have a lot of people in my physical life that care about me. I really feel bad about it though, because I know there are other people out there without air conditioner and I don’t feel any more important than they are. I wish that I had millions of dollars only to be able to fix everybody else’s problems. I would heal every single sick person, and provide a home for every homeless person if I could. I never wanted anyone to feel badly at the face that I am getting help and they aren’t . And so I hope I truly didn’t hurt anybody’s feelings by accepting the fundraiser.
The Outcome, and the real blessing
Doing some research I found out that the system itself is so old and it was all installed at the same exact time. That means that the ventilation system etc, is all from the 1970s. They are suggesting everything get replaced. I was looking at a lot of different prices and I found that it’ll cost $3000 or more just to have it all installed. Then the air-conditioning unit itself will cost about $1500-$3200. I figure I’m pretty much out of luck when it comes to replacing this thing unless by a miracle I end up getting enough money raised up to cover all of the costs. but in my heart I felt as though the real blessing was in the people. Sometimes it’s not really about having the entire situation figured out or fixed. The miracle comes in just the fact that there are people that care a lot about you and are willing to do anything to protect you and keep you safe. As I said, I don’t really have a lot of people in my own life that care about me. It’s just my kids and my mom left in my family really. It was more reassuring to see that people cared about the situation that I was going through, then actually having the problem repaired and getting out of this heat. I never really did ask for the help anyway but to know that people have the heart enough to come up with the thought of helping someone in their own mind, shows that there are really truly good people so left in this world. I’m very lucky that I have a friend who is always contributing it’s my life by means of helping me. I’ll never forget all of the wonderful things that that person does for me either. But just seeing my group come together as a family, really showed me that people that haven’t even met each other in person can still love each other even more so than blood relatives do that you spent your entire life with. And it also reminded me that even though my father may not be here anymore, that I’m not utterly all on my own here. The true miracle and blessings are found in the people that I have in my life and the fact that they are beautiful souls at that.
I just wanted to say thank you to Preston personally for coming up with the idea for the fundraiser and for all of the people that contributed. If it continues, I’ll wait and see where it goes. If I ever get enough raised up to fix the central air conditioning unit and there’s some left over, I’ll kindly donate it to others that I know of that are having air-conditioning issues as well.
We don’t like the little ones taking in a lot of sugar unless it’s from a natural source like fruit etc. I’m also trying to set the example, for the children to grow up vegetarian. I have never tried to enforce a diet on any of my kids. In fact my son Noah is still eats me even though he knows that I’m totally against it. He did grow up with my parents for the longest time and so the influence was always there. My daughter Amber, she’s back-and-forth. Many people ask me why my family does things that I wouldn’t do since I’m supposed to be an influence to them. It is, people have the right to choose what they want on their own pathways it just because I live a certain way doesn’t make it so that others have to either.
Anyhow, I was trying to think of a really good treat for the babies it was really hot outside. I ended up coming up with this little recipe which is super easy and fun to make, since I did ask for my toddler‘s help. She had a good time making them and eating them too.
1.) One Cup of vegetarian heavy whipping cream.
2.) One bag of frozen mixed berry blend. ( we used blackberries, blueberries and raspberries.) Use only one cup.
3.) A popsicle tray for “ DIY Popsicles”. You can find them at Walmart but I got mine at HomeGoods.
4.) One Cup of Vegetarian Milk. You could use any variety of them. Rice milk, coconut milk, milk, almond milk etc. Just make sure that you get the vanilla flavored kind.
Add all ingredients to a blender and blend! Afterwards, just pour your mix into your popsicle trays and freeze. It’s really that simple. Ours took only a few hours to freeze over and so we were able to enjoy these really delicious treats rather quickly. It also made my toddler feel like a big girl to help out.
I always try to instill virtues and values in my kids and family members by making tasks seem fun that also help them to learn. You can do the same with your family while making a tasty treat for the hot weather outside this summer. Good luck. If you happen to make any, post yours on your social media and tag me please. I’m looking forward to hear your review on how they tasted after trying out this recipe.to help out. I always try to instill virtues and values in my kids and family members by making tasks seem fun that also help them to learn. You can do the same with your family while making a tasty treat for the hot weather outside this summer. Good luck.
If you happen to make any, post yours on your social media and tag me please. I’m looking forward to hear your review on how they tasted after trying out this recipe.
Hello readers! It’s been a little while now since my last post here. At 26,000 views on this site alone and over 2500 followers, I think it’s time that I start adding some more content. Especially now that living life to the full us is even more important than it ever was before. Don’t get me wrong it was always important. But with the events of our current time, it’s really mandatory for survival to stay mentally, emotionally, and spiritually happy. You can’t forget about your physical health either. These days, many people are finding refuge and sanctuary behind closed doors of their very own homes. While I refuse to be a part of the indoor generation, I’ve made my home a sanctuary too. Just last year I’ve started doing renovations on the house. Well I intend on relocating at some point, I want to be able to enjoy the place that I’m living in now. It’s not easy doing renovations without the money to do it LOL. I was very lucky that I was able to find some cheap do it yourself ideas. many people are finding refuge and sanctuary behind closed doors of their very own homes. While I refuse to be a part of the indoor generation, I’ve made my home a sanctuary too. Just last year I’ve started doing renovations on the house. Well I intend on relocating at some point, I want to be able to enjoy the place that I’m living in now. It’s not easy doing renovations without the money to do it LOL. I was very lucky that I was able to find some cheap do it yourself ideas.
Since my house is a larger split level, I had an upstairs and a downstairs to do both. We bought the house back in 2016 when my father was still with us. It was his dying wish to leave us with some property that we could have some security with. He knew all too much throughout the years, how much of a struggle it can be in paying bills and trying to ensure that you have a place to live for your family. When he got this house, nothing made him more proud. Except for me LOL… Just kidding. My father was pretty proud of me though.
Nevertheless, we bought the house with a basic hardwood floorupstairs and then some laminate floor downstairs. The laminate flooring resembled hardwood flooring, but definitely isn’t the same thing. I experienced a flood in my downstairs about a year after I moved in and so the original laminate floors were destroyed. A person who my call my own Earth Angel, came to the rescue and helped me to replace the flooring. I had to, people do come here for readings and I didn’t want them looking at the old asbestos tiling that was revealed when the damage floors were lifted. The walls had been painted just prior to us moving in. As a cheap way to make things look nice, they painted every room in the house and even the outdoors, the same exact coloring! It was that peach colored that you get in the box of Crayola? You know the one that they used to make the kids use to color in Caucasian kids in a coloring book? LOL. It was not really all that nice of a color for interior decorating that’s for sure. It wasn’t good for your spiritual or mental mood either. We got tired of looking at it as it was everywhere.
Stairs and Upstairs
For our stairs, there are two sets each containing six steps. There’s a little foyer that has six steps left, taking you to the upstairs house, and then six stairs to the right taking you downstairs. There was some old wood paneling there and an old white rot iron handrail. Heading off into the downstairs all of the walls were drywall, painted white. It was really bland to be honest with you. We kept with it though, throughout the years because anything else would have cost a lot of money to do in order to dress it up a little bit. My father didn’t want me investing any money in doing so because for some reason he never really felt as though we’ve stayed permanently here. I know that he never thought at home here, partly because he knew he was going to pass on. He didn’t want to get used to the home and get comfortable knowing that everyone was going to continue life on in the house, without him. He was right about us not wanting to stay here though. But there’s no reason why we couldn’t enjoy living here until then. Plus, making the house look nice will definitely help raise the value. And so I’ve made some adjustments.
I started with the upstairs and ended up painting it a very light gray color. I was going to go with white but I felt that it was just too plain and overrated. I slapped some nice light gray on most of the walls and did an accent wall around the bay window. We colored that a dark bluish gray. I started adding some beautiful spiritual plaques. I then started working on the kitchen area. The kitchen had a stationary wall which is really just half of a wall to block off one room from the other. I always wanted a little breakfast nook in so I started a project and making myself a little bar area. But if I was going to work on the kitchen, I’d have to paint the kitchen as well. Therefore, I use the same light gray coloring that I used for the living room and dining room since it was all connected. I then took some decorative wallpaper which looks a lot like wood but isn’t. I wallpapered one side of the stationary wall and then added the bar platform. The bar platform was constructed out of plywood which I then added trim to and then added some tiling on top of. Are use the same gray scheme, as I did with the paint in the house so it would match. And then topped it off with some resin to give it a counter top like appearance. For the wallpaper, the paint and the materials to make the bar on top of the stationary wall, it cost me a total of $246. Now if I would’ve hired a professional painter to paint the entire upstairs and build me a countertop for the breakfast bar/nook, it would’ve cost over $1000 some dollars. I saved a lot of money just doing it myself and it turned out pretty fantastic. The resident itself is still stayed a little sticky after a while, but with some work, I could probably get it as it needs to be.
Since I had leftover materials I ripped out the wrought iron handrail going down the stairs. I took the leftover wallpaper that I had from the kitchen wall and I wallpapered over the brown wood paneling. It really brightened up the space. I then bought some LED disc lightsand I ran them up the trim lining the stairs. I added a nice fake vine around the lighting, and it really brightened it up even more. During the day it doesn’t have that claustrophobic feeling because of all the brown paneling anymore. It has nice texture and looks like a whole brand new space. At night time I hit one switch and it lights up the stairway and the vine makes it look very earthy. I’m truly proud of the hard work in those areas. To top it off I added two pendulum lights. I hung one over top of the stairs to make it somewhat like a makeshift chandelier. It was very inexpensive and I got it for 50% off at hobby lobby. I also took the fake vines that I had bought to line the LED lights on the stairs with, and I wrapped the hanging cord of the pendulum lamp with it. It disguised the cord and made it look even more earthy. The second Pendulum White was hung over the breakfast counter/nook. I really don’t do well with any kind of technology or artificial lighting. If it’s too bright or less off too much energy, I’ll start to feel drained. The pendulum light makes it so that it lights up the space and makes it look cozy. Before we had to turn on the light connected to the ceiling fan in the dining room area or the overhead kitchen light, in the middle of the kitchen ceiling. Those lights were far too bright for me and definitely didn’t make it feel warm or welcoming. I really love the pendulum lights.
After I finished off the stairway and all of the upstairs, then went to work on our upstairs bathroom. It was always very bland and boring. Like I said it had that peach tone to it for the paint job, and it really didn’t say anything other than being a boring basic bathroom. So I painted the walls with the leftover bluish gray paint that I had for the accent wall in the living room. There was still some left from when I had used it before. I painted over the peach coloring in the bathroom with it. And then I added a new shower curtain and some accent pictures to match. It really made it look like a totally brand new bathroom! For the bathroom space I had only spent about $50 in total. My daughter also went out and bought $19 mirror lights. They had white bulbs on them sort of like the lights that they use around mirrors in Hollywood? All she had to do was just plug them in and positioned them around the mirror. It turned our bathroom mirror from being a basic mirror on the wall to being that with a bit of glam.
I decided that my son‘s room had never really had a makeover either. The poor boy was sitting at peach colored room with his bunkbed and really no curtains or decorative blankets. Most kids have a theme with their comforter and their curtain set. When we lived in the house prior to just moving here, my daughter and son had to share a bedroom since the house was smaller. There was only three bedrooms there. My parents shared one of them, and then I had one that I used for my bedroom/office space for work, and then the third was set up for my daughter and my son. They never really had anything decorative there either because my parents didn’t want them fighting over what kind of theme they would getI decided that my son‘s room had never really had a makeover either. The poor boy was sitting at peach colored room with his bunkbed and really no curtains or decorative blankets. Most kids have a theme with their comforter and their curtain set. When we lived in the house prior to just moving here, my daughter and son had to share a bedroom since the house was smaller. There was only three bedrooms there. My parents shared one of them, and then I had one that I used for my bedroom/office space for work, and then the third was set up for my daughter and my son. They never really had anything decorative there either because my parents didn’t want them fighting over what kind of theme they would get. I mean they were different genders and so it was in evitable that one would want one thing, and so with the other. When we moved here the house just remain the same and so I thought maybe my son could use a room or space all of his own now. So I went out and I bought a baby blue colored paint. I thought that I would hand craft some cloud lights that were trending online. After purchasing the paint for $18.98, I bought more disc lights and hung them on his ceiling after I finished the paint job. I then started crafting the cloud lights on the ceiling around the lights. They were color changing. He was really excited. I then went out and bought him a basic solid colored comforter and sheets it from Walmart which cost me only $20. To redo my son’s room I think it cost me just a little over $65. Now he never comes out of it LOL.
Now my daughter Amber is another story. Since she’s an adult, I left her room up to her, to decide. She didn’t want to be the only person in the house who’s room didn’t have some kind of nice Decour. She had already painted previously before I had even started the renovations. But she did go out and buy some beautiful lights and hanging vines and put them on her wall as well as brand new blanket set for herself too. Even though she’s 21 she did her room very trendy. It’s adorable.
Now that the upstairs had been completed, it was time to work on the downstairs. I had already painted down there myself after a while, maybe about a year or so after I moved in. I got tired of looking at the white walls. But, I needed a change. I had already had a few people that had visited and seemed to like my ideas of decorating down there and copied a bit of my inspiring theme. The theme I had chose originally was of white and gold. Yes there were some beige pieces of break it up a little bit, but I picked that because it really reminded me of heaven. But this time I thought that I would do something a little bit more signature. I wanted to use my own personal favorite colors and style. I’m not going to reveal what I did with it for obvious reasons but I am extremely happy with everything that I did with my downstairs space. It’s warm, it’s full of love, and it makes me feel very safe. People that go down there often feel such a mystical vibe, but they can also sense my energy so strongly because I’ve put so much of myself not only into the atmosphere, but into the decorating ideas overall. It definitely speaks Alura.
Downstairs: Nursery etc
Since I have never use the bedroom, no matter where I’ve lived… I thought to use the spare bedroom downstairs across the hall from my office/living space as a room for my new babies. I had shared it with Adree when she was first born, but only in regards to our belongings being in the same space. She never slept in that room and neither have I. In fact I never really slept at all and so I never had a need for a bed or a room to put one in. I still had bought a new bed to fill that room up when we first moved here though. But it really just said they can leave. Now that I had two adorable little babies, I figured they could use the nursery/playroom. It was extremely cheap to do. My mother had already bought a toddler bed for my 2 1/2 year-old. All I needed was a matching bed for my one year-old. My best friend had bought one of those teepees that they’re selling on Amazon for kids to play in, and so that sort of inspired the rest of my theme. I went out and got my one year-old son Alexander, one of the zone. I placed both of the Teepees over each of their beds and stationed the beds, one in each corner of the room. And then I needed to pick a theme. It wasn’t easy. I think that was one of the hardest parts of remodeling the entire house overall!
I picked the theme based on things in my childhood. I am raising my 2 1/2 year old to be like a little mini me. I don’t really need to work hard at that either! She’s happy to follow in my footsteps. And now my one and a half year-old Alexander, also follows along. They really love their mommy that’s for sure. Still, finding a neutral theme that really expressed magical moments of my childhood took a little bit of time. I really did have a very magical childhood after all. I didn’t have any friends and I didn’t really hang out a lot with my parents either and so I only really had the heavens and spirit to be friends. they taught me so many things and it was like living in a whole other world of magic, while still being here on earth. I’ve always been higher vibrational and able to see worlds overlapping worlds. Since that was really the only special thing I had about my childhood, I tried to think about things that I had in my childhood that really connected to very specific times and memories. Since my father had just died, I thought that I should maybe remember him in someway. He was never really home during my childhood but I can tell you that when he was, he didn’t spend time with me doing the things I loved. He always took me into nature and around animals. Everyone knows just how much I love nature and animals. My spiritual mother is all about that. And so I picked a cute theme that represented nature and animals. I went with a woodland theme which kind of blended nicely with the TVs that I put over their beds. I bought a green carpet to look like grass and I put an arts and crafts table over top of it that I had already bought for the kids just a Christmas prior to that year. My best friend had also sent a soft camping set for my 2 1/2 year-old for her birthday when she had mailed in the Teepee. I also positioned that on top of the green rug as well. I then painted a plaque of their names and with woodland animals on it, by hand. On the walls, I added decals of woodland animals and trees. I positioned them beside each child’s bed. Alexander got a rabbit, a raccoon and a pine tree. Adriana got a bear, a fox, and a giant oak tree. It’s not really for them individually but I just thought it would be nice if they each had some thing to wake up to individually when they weren’t using the room together. The only thing I was missing at that point were matching comforters and a lamp. I finally found a nice tree lamp and then I had to customize an order for two blankets.
I had their names put on the blankets and for my 2 1/2-year-old daughter, I had them add roses underneath of her name. I did that as a little accent to remind her of her mommy since I love roses. For Alexander, I just added some cute vines and leaves under his name to make it more gender comfortable for him. The room turned out to be a great success! It cost me a little more to decorate than the rest of the house though. Both blankets were about $60 each and I had to purchase them separately so as to be able to afford them. The paint itself was only $20, but the wall decals cost me about $50 alone. The tree lamp cost me $20 at HomeGoods. The little carpet itself was very cheap and only cost $9.99 on Amazon. It really turned out great though and now my 2 1/2-year-old daughter doesn’t even want to sleep with me anymore LOL. Little Alexander still sleeps with me though. But at least Elora (Adree) is getting a lot of use out of the bedroom. A used leftover paint, to paint my half a bathroom downstairs as well. I use the same paint that I had used in my office/living space. I paid $20 for a matching bathroom rug set. And so the bathroom was done. The only thing that I really had to do with it later, was purchase drawers, to put some of my personal items in. That cost me about $40 on Amazon.
Everything seem to be complete but there was one space that continued to really irk my soul. My laundry room. It was dingy and it definitely was very unorganized. Overtime the family would just throw things down there without putting things on any kind of shelving. When we moved in there was a wooden shelving system that the owner of the home had crafted. It was big and bulky, and it was built right onto the wall self and so it wasn’t easy to get rid of. I had to use a drill and a sledgehammer both, to remove that piece by piece. After removing it, I cleaned out all of the junk that had been piled up in there that no one was using. That included things like all the crafts that nobody finished, some bags of clothes that nobody was ever going to wear again, and packages of paper towels and toilet paper that were never opened or put anywhere. We used to have an arts table down there too but I remove that as well for more space. I donated the bags of clothes and throw everything else away since it was almost ruined anyhow. I then painted the concrete brick wall behind my washer and dryer, whites. I had to use a paint with a sealer in it though. This was to make the wall look shiny and to fill in any of the little tiny holes or pores that each of the concrete blocks had in them. I didn’t want it to look like a poor paint job after all. I then went to the Home Depot and bought a shelving rack set. I had to use a drill to hang up the brackets to them positioned the shelves. I re-organized everything on the shelves and then I added a cart on wheels in there as well for cleaning products and extra supplies. I painted any exposed wood, a light blue color that I had left over from the kids nursery room. I added more white to the paint that I had left over from the concrete wall as well. Mixing them, really made a very very light color blue, that was Sophie you could barely see that it was blue. It definitely brightened up the space and made it a lot more comfortable to be in. I really hated even going in there to do my laundry because it was so packed that it was often claustrophobic. The laundry room was finally almost done. I really wanted to seal and paint the concrete floor as well. Seems the concrete is a very absorbent surface and so overtime anything that has spilled has been absorbed it is greatly stained into the floor. That included candle dies from making candles in there, and many other things.
I still haven’t gotten around to do the floor in there yet though. But for the most part mostly everything had been done. It really looks so fantastic in here. My mother was even generous enough to complement the new paint jobs and help me improvement projects, by buying a cheap sectional to match. While it isn’t the greatest quality of furniture, it really did make it look nice in here. Before we had a brown sofa that we had brought from our last residence. But my father had sat on it every single day before he was dying, and kind of sunk The one seat cushion in. You couldn’t even sit down on it or you would fall into the actual couch and on it’s Springs. I was happy that we finally got rid of it. Even though it had sentimental value because of my father having sat there before he passed, I definitely felt that if we were going to have visitors and such, that we should have a better piece of furniture to welcome them with. My mother made that possible and so I was really thankful. Now that all of that is done, the only thing I really have left now is to get to my garage. I want to clean it out and make it into a little bit of a she-cave. You know how they have she-sheds?Well it’s sort of like that. I want to turn the garage into a little space where I can do my crafts and work on making my products for my business. I still want to use it a little bit for storage but I would love to have more workspace in regards to making my products because sometimes we make so many of them, we don’t have anywhere to really store them. I don’t want to mess getting all over the floors like I did in the laundry room either. I’ll get around to it before the summer is over but for now, the garage is still pretty packed with all of the stuff that I still wanted to keep from the laundry room. I’ll post pictures when I finally get around to doing the garage.
Family time and Instilling Virtues
Ultimately, it was pretty cheap to do all of these projects room to room. I just use a lot of stuff that I had bought and whatever was left over from it. Any additional pieces I looked for on sale. There were a few other items that we got throughout the process of it. I did buy my son a new dresser since he had been using a small little plastic bin. That really made it look very nice and tidy in there to add to how beautiful it looked. I also bought a few little accent pieces for the kitchen and a couple of organizational cards for the kids. Everything really does feel very warm here now. And to think that just rounding it up to the nearest dollar, everything only cost me a little bit under $500! And that was throughout time. I didn’t just buy everything all at once. I had to save up money on the side, to be able to do anything. But it was a lot better than having to pay thousands of dollars right? To have had the upstairs and the downstairs both painted, it would’ve went over $2500 according to New Jersey painting contractors. To build the countertop space for the breakfast nook, that would’ve cost roughly about a grand as well by itself. And so just for those few things, I’m very grateful that I was able to be creative myself as well as thrifty. I really made the home a whole other place as well as a much more welcoming and happy environment.
If you are getting tired of how your inner sanctuary looks, you could probably do the same thing that I did. Save up a little money on the side and once you have enough, go out and look for paints and decorations etc. that falls within your budget. I also added a brand new kitchen faucet as well. I had to learn how to do these things on my own. Before my father died he asked me to buy him a Ryobi tools kit. I wondered what he was going to do with it since I knew he was so sick and weak that he probably would never get around to using it. And so I asked him who is it really for? He admitted that he wanted me to buy it for him for Christmas, but it was going to be mine in the end of things. I am glad that he made me do that. He knew I was going to need it for something right? So far throughout the process, I’ve been a carpenter, a plumber, a painter, and organizer, and I’ve also built pieces of furniture that came in, that weren’t built already.
It’s really funny. Amber and I have an inside joke that we often say to each other which gives us a little bit of a giggle. Amber often says that when we’re making brochures for our business in spiritual advising, that we should also add painting, plumbing, yardwork, landscaping etc. LOL. We are a jack of all trades my daughter and I. Were able to conquer pretty much anything we set out to do together. You have no idea how many pieces of furniture we built over the years. I guess that’s how it goes we don’t really have a man of the house. My son was always young and my father, always too sick. You learn pretty quickly when you don’t want to pay out-of-pocket for somebody to come and do it for you. in all, I’m really pleased with how the house is turned out. I truly would not have decorated it any other way. It’s true that your environment really does affect you. Not only do I have to keep up with regular atmospheric cleansers, but I have to also do aura and chakra cleaning on all of my relatives weekly. I do my own every few days. The energies out there are harsh and stifling. If I leave the house for even half an hour a day, I come back feeling like I’m dying. The peach colored paint really wasn’t helping anything. Therefore using the light gray really opened up the space and it’s a color that’s neutral with anything. If I ever decide to add accent pieces of A different color, it’ll go good with the gray. Right now we’re sticking with the light to dark gray color scheme with furniture and decor so far, but if I choose to switch that up with pink or any other color tan like gold or blue etc. it’ll all work wonderfully together with the light gray.
It’s a known fact that if you have a green walls and you’re always in that room containing the green walls, that is going to cause your heart chakra which is associated with green, to go over active. It’s the same if you were to reside in one color all of the time anywhere. Still though, the gray itself is a wonderful choice because it doesn’t interfere with your chakras or aura in anyway. Gray isn’t really a color after all. The energy of the atmosphere also depends upon the people that are in it. If others are feeling down, then it will fill the environment that way. Making the place look nice and renewing how it looks in the atmosphere, makes everyone else feel a lot better when they’re in those spaces. Therefore we have a lot more positive energy than we did before, for sure.
Make yourself a nice inner sanctuary too. If you need any ideas let me know. I’m not a home decor expert but I do have some really wonderful ideas up my sleeve. Doing projects like this really helps you to bring your family closer as well. I need my 14-year-old son build his very own dresser which taught him a skill. He learned how to use new tools, and I got to spend time with him teaching in hell. My toddlers also didn’t feel the lend a helping hand at moments, with painting. My daughter Amber also helped with some things here and there when she was available. It was nice on top of that too because, when my children’s father visited, he also helped in painting Noah‘s room.
I brought the two guys together and really shared that he cared while he was here. I really enjoyed doing all of this and I really hope to be able to share the renewed space is people, they get to come over and visit here. Since I don’t get to leave the house very much because of the energy and how it affects me outside, I really want to invite people to visit me. I don’t want to be isolated after all. I’m more than happy to travel out to others, where to spend some time outdoors, but for the most part I can’t go into too many public spaces because of how sensitive I am. Still though, take my advice, it’s really great to do you things on your own and nothing makes you feel better than a job well done when it’s done by you. Good luck on creating your inner sanctuary is everybody and thank you for reading.
The people that we meet in life will be of all types of characters who all have different perceptions, needs, attributes, and flaws. Working with so many, I hear all kinds of experiences, and I can tell you… relationships are no less than hard when it comes to trying to have good ones. Most people think conditionally. Most of the time they have a reason as to why they are investing time into someone. Everyone has one expectations in others that they come to connect with. Even at times without realizing that they have those conditions. A good example if you will…
Solely for me….
There was a woman named Monique who started going to a depression support group which was being run by a woman named Carla. Carla put the group together under her therapy license and felt it would be good for her to use the time helping others to take her mind off of things. She had experienced a loss in her family at the beginning of the year and now six months later, she felt that she could try to let go and concentrate on making others feel better.
Monique and Carla had started out as just acquaintances but talking and texting outside of group, they became friends. Carla would always ask Monique to come by for company as she was lonely, but Monique always told her that she was busy. She hadn’t been. Any excuse that she told her had been a lie. She just didn’t have any plans. She just didn’t want to go out. However, Monique always called Carla . Every time something had happened that upset her, Monique would reach out to her therapist friend Carla. Upon realizing that she talked about herself quite a bit and that Carla stayed quiet and only ever did just listen… She felt badly and told Carla that if she ever needed to talk, that she would be there for her just as much as Carla had been there for her.
As time progressed, Carla started to feel as though she didn’t really have a real friend in the world. She didn’t expect anything from anyone. In fact she was a giver. But it would’ve been nice to have people actually show that they cared about her in someway. And so she isolated a bit and when it came time for the next monthly group, Carla issued an email notification that she was canceling it. But Monique had also been going through a great deal of depression and without her therapist fun to talk to you lately, she was really looking forward to that support group. She was a little angry at Carla for not keeping in touch to begin with, but when she found out that the support group to have been canceled… She called Carla up just give her a piece of her mind. She told her that she was very upset that she had canceled the group and that she didn’t think that Carla realized just how many people really needed that group. She told her that she couldn’t think of any reason that was good enough in her eyes that Carla would have canceled such an important and much needed tool for a lot of depressed people.
Finally, Carla kindly came out with the truth. She told Monique that she had been having some troubles of her own. She told Monique that she didn’t mean to hurt anyone by canceling the support group. It was only that she needed some time to work some things out within herself. Monique told Carla that she was selfish and that was the last that they spoke. Carla never answered the phone for Monique again and she canceled the support group permanently.
When you have people in your life, you will be in a position to always give. But the problem is, is that many people expect to receive back, what they’ve given in the same way from those individuals. That’s not really how it works though. You can’t have specific expectations. You’ll get back with you given to others through other people throughout time. You have to have a level of acceptance in the fact that everyone will give what they want to, or what they can. Everybody is different. However if you have a situation where it is only a one-way street overall, then that person isn’t the true definition of a loved one. That’s a person who has conditions and their own interest at heart.
The point is, everybody will give in their own way. What you have given, always comes back to you just through different situations and people. But here’s something to think about. How much easier is it to do for the people that do for you? Then it is do for those that do nothing for you at all? Jesus says to do want to others as you would have them do you want to you. But he doesn’t mean to help them in the expectations of receiving back from the same people, the same way. What do you means is that you have to treat other people the way you desire to be treated and that means even with others that do nothing for you at all. And that’s because he knew that karma comes in good ways and bad. In a good way, your karma will come back to you for the good things you’ve done through other individuals that you come across when you are in a time of need. They’ll help you just like you helped the other person. It comes back to you when you need it most.
Keep helping others. But if there are situations in your life like what Carla experienced, it may be best to cut the ties. A form of manipulation is when a person takes and takes and puts you down when they aren’t able to get from you anymore. Giving in your life should bring good things back to you in many ways. Loved ones will give in their own ways. Anyone who doesn’t try to help you in any way, is using you.